7 Struggles of Bookworm Couples
When a bookworm marries another bookworm, there are some good things and some bad things that happen. Good things like getting double the books, having more money to buy books, being able to talk about books with someone on a 24/7 basis. And the bad things? Well, keep reading for my 7 Struggles of Bookworm Couples!
This has good elements to it, don't get me wrong (after all you're broadening your bookshelves for free), but when you have different ideas on how to organize your books then it can get a little bit messy. Basically, if a marriage can survive the merging of two individual book collections it can probably survive anything.
Sometimes this is really awesome, I mean, between us Jonathan and I ended up with six different copies of The Lord of the Rings (5 of which were mine) and I have not a single complaint. However, it gets a little more irritating when you both have the same edition of The Book Thief and now have to decide which one to keep and which to give away...
Living with a bookworm means talking about the books you've been reading, and hearing about the books that the other has been reading. And between that, your TBR might begin to stretch a mile longer over time. Having a second person actively investing in your reading life is great, but it might mean your TBR pile falls over and kills you. Just maybe.
As if you weren't good enough at being broke because #books when you were single, now there's TWO of you actively trying to guzzle every last nickel from your bank account in order to buy a new hardcover or start another graphic novel series. And it's impossible for someone to be a rational voice because you both know that this is the end you want to choose.
I recently had this problem. I picked up Leia: Princess of Alderaan and The Knife of Never Letting Go and asked Jonathan, "Which one should I read?"
"Well," he said. "I want to read The Knife of Never Letting Go, so not that one."
Of course that was the one I actually wanted to read. But, being the good wife that I am, I allowed him the pleasure and took my second choice. Feeling only slight resentment.
One of the great pleasures of marrying a bookworm is sharing the experience of reading your favorite books with them...but this fails to work when you make a reading suggestion and they proceed to ignore you for 10,048 years. YOU'LL LOVE IT WHEN YOU FINALLY GET AROUND TO READING IT, GOSH DARNIT!
But then of course there is the one-in-a-million time when your suggestion is taken seriously and they read it...and proceed to crush your hopes and dreams by not ABSOLUTELY LOVING THE MASTERPIECE THAT IS THIS WORK OF FICTION WITH ALL THEIR SOUL. I cannot tell you how many times I have felt the massive, soul-crushing disappointment of hearing Jonathan say a book that I loved and breathed like air was "alright." Nothing hurts my heart more than this tragedy.
And there you have it, some of the struggles bookworm couples face on the daily. Perhaps you are one half of a couple and can relate? Or maybe you have a bookworm family member or best friend with whom you've experienced similar situations? What kinds of struggles do you go through with your close bookworms? Let me know below!
Ooooh, and don't forget that the beta-reader sign-up for my novel Faithless is still open! Click the link to check it out and maybe sign-up yourself!
1. MERGING YOUR COLLECTIONS
This has good elements to it, don't get me wrong (after all you're broadening your bookshelves for free), but when you have different ideas on how to organize your books then it can get a little bit messy. Basically, if a marriage can survive the merging of two individual book collections it can probably survive anything.
2. HAVING MULTIPLE VOLUMES OF THE SAME BOOK
Sometimes this is really awesome, I mean, between us Jonathan and I ended up with six different copies of The Lord of the Rings (5 of which were mine) and I have not a single complaint. However, it gets a little more irritating when you both have the same edition of The Book Thief and now have to decide which one to keep and which to give away...
3. ADDING TO EACH OTHER'S TBR'S
Living with a bookworm means talking about the books you've been reading, and hearing about the books that the other has been reading. And between that, your TBR might begin to stretch a mile longer over time. Having a second person actively investing in your reading life is great, but it might mean your TBR pile falls over and kills you. Just maybe.
4. BEING BROKE BECAUSE #BOOKS
As if you weren't good enough at being broke because #books when you were single, now there's TWO of you actively trying to guzzle every last nickel from your bank account in order to buy a new hardcover or start another graphic novel series. And it's impossible for someone to be a rational voice because you both know that this is the end you want to choose.
5. WANTING TO READ THE SAME BOOK...AT ONCE
I recently had this problem. I picked up Leia: Princess of Alderaan and The Knife of Never Letting Go and asked Jonathan, "Which one should I read?"
"Well," he said. "I want to read The Knife of Never Letting Go, so not that one."
Of course that was the one I actually wanted to read. But, being the good wife that I am, I allowed him the pleasure and took my second choice. Feeling only slight resentment.
6. WHEN THEY DON'T TAKE YOUR BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS FOR YEARS (OR EVER)
One of the great pleasures of marrying a bookworm is sharing the experience of reading your favorite books with them...but this fails to work when you make a reading suggestion and they proceed to ignore you for 10,048 years. YOU'LL LOVE IT WHEN YOU FINALLY GET AROUND TO READING IT, GOSH DARNIT!
7. WHEN ONE OF YOU THINKS A BOOK WAS THE BEST AND THE OTHER SAYS "MEH"
But then of course there is the one-in-a-million time when your suggestion is taken seriously and they read it...and proceed to crush your hopes and dreams by not ABSOLUTELY LOVING THE MASTERPIECE THAT IS THIS WORK OF FICTION WITH ALL THEIR SOUL. I cannot tell you how many times I have felt the massive, soul-crushing disappointment of hearing Jonathan say a book that I loved and breathed like air was "alright." Nothing hurts my heart more than this tragedy.
And there you have it, some of the struggles bookworm couples face on the daily. Perhaps you are one half of a couple and can relate? Or maybe you have a bookworm family member or best friend with whom you've experienced similar situations? What kinds of struggles do you go through with your close bookworms? Let me know below!
Ooooh, and don't forget that the beta-reader sign-up for my novel Faithless is still open! Click the link to check it out and maybe sign-up yourself!
OK THIS WAS HILARIOUS and sweet all at the same time. I'm not marrying an unbookish man :P so I guess I'm mentally relating to all this.
ReplyDeleteHaha, thank you! Honestly I probably wouldn't be able to marry someone non-bookish. It'd drive me crazy.
DeleteThis is so funny! XD Great post.
ReplyDelete~Ivie
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Thanks so much!!
DeleteThis post is the best! I've definitely dealt with the disappointment of friends or family not liking a book as much as I did or never reading it at all. -_- And merging book collections? *shudder* I guess we'll see how much of that I have to go through of day xD
ReplyDeleteTHE DISAPPOINTMENT IS REAL. Probably one of the most deflating moment in a relationship. XD Definitely be prepared for some healthy disagreement when merging book collections for sure.
DeleteThis is my greatest aspiration in life, tbh: to be married to a bookworm. Aside from the book collection, my best friend and I are huge bookworms in generally the same genre, but with opposite tastes, which is a little disappointing but it's still so much fun and several of the things still relate :)
ReplyDeleteThat is an excellent aspiration. Ugh, yes, different taste in books sometimes just straight up kills me. Luckily, Jonathan and I have pretty similar tastes on the whole. Though there are some things that I read that he won't. I'm glad you could still relate!
DeleteThese all sound very relatable - and serious. I guess I'll just have to prepare myself to deal with them; I don't think I could live with someone who didn't appreciate books!
ReplyDelete(#7, though. How do you deal with that... o.O)
- Jem Jones
It is very very serious. One might need a special branch of marital counselling just to get through it. XD I don't think I could either, it would seriously try every inch of my patience. It seems people who don't read books don't have much in the way of imagination.
Delete#7 is a very hard cross to bear, but I try to go on...somehow.
Haha, I never thought that there would be struggles. Although now I realize that if I was half of a bookworm couple, I would have to share my precious hardcovers... Great post, Emily! =)
ReplyDeleteMicaiah @ Notebooks and Novels
Sharing...ugh. The worst thing about getting married. XD Thanks so much!
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